Mentalization of the Transference

An advanced MBT technique in which the therapist focuses the client's attention on the therapeutic relationship here and now, using it as a laboratory for inquiry into mental states. Unlike classical interpretation of transference, mentalization of the transference is aimed at activating mentalization in the context of a living, real attachment relationship. The therapist invites the client to think about the mind of another person (the therapist).

Step-by-step guide

1. Notice the moment when the client's pattern of interpersonal relationships is being played out in the therapeutic interaction
2. Empathically validate the client's current experience
3. Gently bring the client's attention to what is happening between you right now: "It seems to me something is happening between us"
4. Invite the client to inquire what, in their view, the therapist thinks or feels: "What do you think I feel right now?"
5. Share your own experience (transparently, in marked form): "In fact I feel. and this may differ from what you assumed"
6. Link this experience to other relationships of the client: "Does this happen with other people?"

When to use

• When the dynamics of the therapeutic relationship reflect the patterns the client comes with
• When the client attributes certain feelings or motives to the therapist
• When tension or rupture arises between the therapist and the client

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