The therapist physically takes on an action the client is performing unconsciously (supporting the shoulders, pressing) so the client can relax it and explore what is underneath.
Step-by-step guide
- Notice the bodily pattern: raised shoulders, clenched hands, lean
- Name it: "I notice your shoulders are very high"
- Offer: "May I place my hands there and support them?"
- With explicit consent — gently take over the "work" of the muscles
- "Now I am holding. You can let go. What is happening?"
- Observe and explore: what appears when the holding is no longer needed?
When to use
- When a clear body pattern of "holding" is visible
- Chronic tension, with a client in mindfulness who is ready for a bodily experiment
Key phrases
I notice your shoulders are carrying a lot right now. With your permission, I would put my hands lightly under them and take that weight for a minute — so you can let go and see what is underneath it. Only if that feels right.
Follow-up questions
What happens when the muscles don't have to do the job?
Is there a feeling that appears once the holding stops?
Is this okay, or would you like me to lift my hands?
What is the shoulder (or the hand, or the jaw) actually protecting?
Alternative phrasings
If direct touch is too much, we can do taking over with presence and words alone.
Tell me when to stop — any time, no explanation needed.
Warnings
- ⚠️ Only with explicit consent. Explain the purpose.
- ⚠️ Stop instantly on request.
- ⚠️ Never take over what the client is not ready to let go of — sometimes "no" is the most useful answer.
Source: Kurtz, 1990; Johanson & Kurtz, 1991
Materials are informational and educational and summarize publicly available scientific sources. They are not medical or psychological advice, are not intended for self-diagnosis or self-treatment, and do not replace consultation with a qualified professional.