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Three Houses

Three Houses
💡 Clarification 🎨 Imagery

A visual technique that helps a child and a family talk about themselves through the metaphor of houses: "The house I live in", "The house of my dreams", "The house of my worries". Not a verbal conversation but a creative process — the child can draw and speak at the same time, which reveals the inner world beyond pat answers.

Step-by-step guide

  1. Draw three houses (schematically)
  2. "In this house I live now" — the child draws/describes
  3. "In this house are my dreams" — what they want
  4. "In this house are my worries/fears" — what worries them
  5. Listen and ask: "What do you need to get from house 1 to house 2?"

When to use

  • Working with children (especially 5–12 years old)
  • With complex family histories
  • When verbal conversation is difficult or limited by age

Key phrases

In this house I live now — draw or tell what is there
In this house are my dreams — what would you like?
In this house are my fears — what worries you?
What do you need to get from house 1 to house 2?

Warnings

  • ⚠️ Do not interpret the drawing — the child is the author
  • ⚠️ Do not push for the "right" content — what is in the house is what is in the house

Source: Sheratan, the development of SFBT for children

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