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Solution-Focused Brief Therapy

SFBT
«The solution does not have to be connected to the problem — but it is always connected to the future.»
Definition

SFBT (Solution-Focused Brief Therapy) is a psychotherapeutic approach that focuses on constructing solutions rather than analyzing problems. The central idea: the solution does not have to be connected to the problem — but it is always connected to the client's desired future.

Founder(s) and history

Steve de Shazer (1940–2005) and Insoo Kim Berg (1934–2007) created SFBT in the early 1980s at the Brief Family Therapy Center (BFTC) in Milwaukee, USA.

The approach was born from practical observation. The BFTC team watched sessions through a one-way mirror and noticed: when the conversation shifts from the problem to the solution, clients improve faster. This observational methodology became the foundation of the approach.

Influences and predecessors:

  • Milton Erickson — utilization (using what the client brings), orientation to the future, minimal interventions
  • MRI Palo Alto (Watzlawick, Weakland, Fisch) — brief therapy, systemic thinking, "the problem is the solution"
  • Ludwig Wittgenstein — language as the construction of reality (an influence on de Shazer)

BFTC closed in 2007 after the deaths of both founders. By then SFBT had already become one of the most widely used psychotherapeutic approaches in the world, giving rise to many schools and adaptations.

Key figures of the next generations:

  • Evan George, Harvey Ratner (BRIEF, London)
  • Luc Isebaert (the Bruges model)
  • Ben Furman, Tapani Ahola (the Finnish school)
  • Plamen Panayotov (CoLeC, Bulgaria)
  • Adam Froerer, Elliott Connie (Diamond Model)
  • Mark McKergow (SFBT 2.0)
Key concepts

The 8 Milwaukee principles

1. If it isn't broken, don't fix it 2. If something works, do more of it 3. If something doesn't work, do something different 4. Small steps can lead to large changes 5. The solution does not have to be connected to the problem 6. The language of the solution ≠ the language of the problem 7. No problem is constant — there are always exceptions 8. The future is constructed in dialogue

These principles were drawn from thousands of hours of session observation, not from theory.

The Miracle Question

"Suppose that tonight, while you were asleep, a miracle happened — and the problem that brought you here was solved. But you don't know about it because you were asleep. What will be the first thing you notice in the morning?"

The Miracle Question is not a fantasy and not a visualization. It is a tool for constructing a detailed description of the desired future through concrete, observable signs.

Scaling

"From 0 to 10, where 10 is your life after the miracle and 0 is the worst moment. where are you now?" Then: "Why not lower?" (a focus on resources) and "What will be at +1?" (a small step).

The scale is a universal tool for assessing progress, motivation, confidence, hope.

Exceptions to the problem

Moments when the problem is less noticeable or absent. Looking for exceptions is a way to discover solutions that already work: "When is the problem less noticeable? What were you doing differently?"

Types of relationship

TypeDescriptionStrategy
VisitorSees no problem, came along "for company"Compliments, support, no tasks
ComplainantSees the problem, but in othersObservation tasks
CustomerSees the problem and is ready to actBehavioral tasks

The type of relationship is not a label for the person but a description of the present moment. It can change during a session.

Coping questions

For clients in a hard state (scale 0–1), when the Miracle Question is not appropriate: "How do you manage to cope?", "How do you keep getting up in the morning?" The focus is on resilience, not on the solution.

Format of therapy
  • Number of sessions: usually 3–8, on average 4–5
  • Session length: 45–60 minutes
  • Frequency: 1–4 weeks between meetings
  • Course structure: no phases; every session may be the last

A typical structure of the first session: a short description of the problem → the Miracle Question → detailing the desired future → scale → exceptions → feedback (a break, compliments, a task).

Follow-up sessions begin with "What is better?" — the focus is on progress, not on problems.

Evidence base
  • Umbrella review 2024 (25 systematic reviews): overall effect size d = 0.65. High confidence for depression and general mental health
  • Gingerich & Peterson (2013): meta-analysis of 43 studies — a significant positive effect in 74% of studies
  • Stams et al. (2006): meta-analysis, effect size d = 0.37
  • Kim (2008): meta-analysis, effect size d = 0.13 (statistically significant but small)
  • Franklin et al. (2012): Campbell Collaboration review — SFBT is effective for behavioral problems in children

SFBT is included in the registries of evidence-based practices of (USA) and NICE (UK) for several indications. The most convincing data are for depression, behavioral problems in children and adolescents, and family conflicts.

Limits
  • Uneven evidence base — convincing data for mild-to-moderate depression and behavioral problems; less studied areas are severe disorders, psychosis, PTSD
  • Criticism of surface work — psychodynamic and existential therapists consider that SFBT avoids working with deeper causes
  • Reliance on verbal skills — the approach requires the ability to describe a desired future; with marked cognitive impairment it may be difficult
  • Risk of ignoring severity — a focus on solutions can lead to underestimating the seriousness of a state (suicidality, violence)
  • Cultural limits — the individualistic focus on personal goals may not fit collectivist cultures without adaptation
BeginningProblem-free talk + pre-session change

"The language of constructing the solution is different from the language of describing the problem." — Steve de Shazer

The classical Milwaukee structure changed over time: the 1986 plan was formal (7 steps with the team behind the mirror), the 2006 plan was more flexible. Below — modern practice based on Milwaukee.

Two routes, one logic. First session: problem-free talk → pre-session change → Miracle Question → scaling → closing. Following sessions: "what is better?" → amplification → scaling → closing.

PROBLEM-FREE TALK

A few minutes of talk, free from the problem. Getting acquainted, contact, the setting.

This is not assessment and not history-taking. It is a signal: it is safe here, we begin as equals.

PRE-SESSION CHANGE

"What has changed since the moment you booked the appointment with me?"
"What changes have you noticed that have happened or have begun to happen since you made the appointment?"

This question sets the tone: changes are already happening, we notice them and amplify them.

✅ If the client answers "nothing" — do not push. Move on to the description of the problem.

✅ If the client names changes — amplify: "How did you manage that? What else has changed?"

DESCRIPTION OF THE PROBLEM

"What brought you here?"

Let the client tell their story. Do not dive deep into history — it is enough to understand what is bothering them. The aim is to move on to the solution.

"How will you know that your life has 'sorted itself out'?"

A bridge from the problem to the solution. After this — the Miracle Question.

Miracle QuestionThe central Milwaukee tool

THE CLASSICAL FORMULATION (DE SHAZER)

"Now I want to ask you an unusual question. Suppose that tonight, while you are asleep and the whole house is quiet, a miracle happens. The miracle is that the problem that brought you here has been solved. But you were asleep, so you do not know that the miracle has happened. When you wake up tomorrow morning — what will be different? What will tell you that the miracle has happened?"

Speak slowly. Take pauses. Let the client step into the picture. This is not a quick question — it is an invitation into another reality.

HOW TO DEVELOP THE ANSWER

"What else will be different?"
"What will the people around you notice — husband, wife, children, colleagues?"
"How will they react when they notice these changes?"
"What will you do differently on this day?"
"How will it affect the rest of your day?"

✅ Ask "What else?" many times. The aim is a detailed, vivid picture of the next day in concrete, observable details.

⚠️ Do not stop at abstractions. "I will feel better" → "How will you notice that you feel better? What will you be doing?"

IF THE CLIENT FINDS IT HARD TO IMAGINE A MIRACLE

"Okay, without a miracle — if the problem simply disappeared, what would be different tomorrow morning?"
"Imagine: time passes, and your life has sorted itself out. Describe one ordinary day in this sorted-out life."

The word "miracle" does not fit some clients. That is fine. The point is a detailed description of the future without the problem, not a particular word.

© Steve de Shazer, Insoo Kim Berg — BFTC, Milwaukee

Scaling in the first sessionFrom the abstract to the concrete

THE MAIN QUESTION

"On a scale from 0 to 10, where 0 is the worst moment and 10 is your life after the miracle, where are you now?"

FOLLOW-UP QUESTIONS

"Why are you at [N] and not at 0?"

This is the key question! The answer reveals the resources and what is already working.

"What keeps you from sliding one point lower?"
"What will be different when you are at [N+1]?"
"How will you know that you have moved up by one point?"
"Where would your husband / wife / friend put you on this scale?"

The scale translates abstract experience into specifics. De Shazer called this a move from "analog" to "digital" language — and back.

✅ Do not chase a high number. The focus is on what is already there and what will be at +1.

⚠️ Do not ask "Why not higher?" — that is a focus on deficit. Ask "Why not lower?" — a focus on resource.

Closing the first sessionWrapping up

BEFORE CLOSING

"Is there anything important that I forgot to ask?"

MODERN PRACTICE

"What from our conversation was most useful for you?"
"What might it be useful for you to pay attention to before our next meeting?"

Modern SFBT practice closes the session gently — without a formal break or a list of tasks. The focus: what the client themselves considers useful.

Classical: the therapist took a break (a consultation with the team behind the one-way mirror), then returned with compliments and a task. Today most practitioners work without a team and without a formal break.

IF YOU WANT TO SUGGEST AN EXPERIMENT

"Between our meetings — pay attention to moments when something happens that you described in the miracle."
"Just observe what happens in your life that you would like to keep."

This is not a "task" — it is an invitation to observe. The client is free to take it up or not.

Classical: de Shazer gave concrete tasks — observe, predict, do more of what works, do something different. In modern practice, tasks have given way to gentle suggestions.

What is better?Opening of the follow-up session

A follow-up session begins not with "How are you?" but with a focus on changes.

THE MAIN QUESTION

"What is better, even a little, since our last meeting?"
"What changes have you noticed?"
"What was different?"

✅ Accept everything — even small things. "Got up 5 minutes earlier" — great. Develop.

⚠️ Do not ask "How are you?" — that is an invitation to describe the problem. Ask "What is better?" — that is an invitation to describe the solution.

"What kept the situation from getting worse?"
"How did you manage to cope?"
"What was at least a little different?"

These are coping questions. Even when "nothing is better" — the client was doing something to hold on. Find it.

1. Listen — do not interrupt, acknowledge 2. Ask a coping question: "How do you manage to cope?" 3. Amplify: "What else helps?" — 3–5 times 4. Return to the future: "Given all this — what do you hope for?"

AmplificationDeveloping what works

STRATEGIC QUESTIONS

When the client has named an improvement — amplify:

"How did you manage that?"
"What were you doing differently?"
"What does this say about you — that you were able to do this?"
"Who else noticed these changes? How did they react?"

✅ "What else has gotten better?" — ask 5–7 times. Build the full list.

LINK TO THE MIRACLE

"Does this look like what you described as the 'miracle'?"
"Which part of the miracle has already begun to happen?"

Tie the improvements to the picture of the future from the first session. This strengthens the sense of movement.

Scaling in follow-up sessionsTracking progress
"Remember our scale? Last time you were at [N]. Where are you now?"
"How did you manage to move up?"
"What changed between [N] and [N+1]?"
"What is needed to hold this level?"

✅ Every +1 is a reason to amplify: "How did you do it? What were you doing? What does this say about you?"

"How did you manage to stay at [N]?"
"What were you doing to keep from sliding lower?"

Holding the level is also an achievement. Do not devalue it.

"What is helping you hold even at [N-1]?"
"What would be one point higher? What is needed for that?"

The focus is not on the drop but on the resources of holding and the micro-step up.

Closing the follow-up sessionWrapping up the follow-up
"What from today's conversation was most useful?"
"What is worth paying attention to before our next meeting?"

WHEN DOES THERAPY END?

When the client feels they can cope without the meetings. The therapist does not decide for the client.

"Do you need another meeting?"
"What will tell you that the meetings are no longer needed?"

In SFBT a typical course is 3–8 sessions (often 4–6). Do not drag it out if the client is ready.

Pre-session ChangePre-session Change

A question that sets the tone for the whole therapy: the client realizes that change does not start in the office — it has already happened or is happening. The work is built on this foundation.

  • 1. The client enters the office
  • 2. The first question (after greeting): "What has changed since the moment you booked the appointment with me?"
  • 3. Listen carefully — this is often the most valuable material in the session
  • 4. Develop the answer: "What else? How did it happen? What helped?"
  • 5. Reinforce: "That matters. How did you notice this change?"

When to use:

  • The very start of the first session (before describing the problem)
  • The client's motivation may be low
  • The client may have been referred by another professional
  • The client may doubt the usefulness of therapy
  • Any first meeting

Key phrases:

Before we begin — what has changed since the moment you booked the appointment with me? What changes have you noticed that have happened or have begun to happen?

Follow-up questions:

What else?
How did it happen?
What helped?
That matters. How did you notice this change?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not skip this question (the solution-focused stance starts here)
  • ⚠️ Do not interpret the answer right away
  • ⚠️ If the client says "Nothing has changed" — this is also information (use coping questions)

de Shazer, Berg (BFTC, Milwaukee)

Miracle QuestionMiracle Question

The central tool of SFBT. The client describes the desired future in detailed, concrete, observable, behavioral terms. Not an abstract goal ("I want to be happy"), but a vivid picture of the next day ("I will wake up, make coffee, talk to my daughter about her day.").

  • 1. Begin with preparation: "I want to ask you an unusual, perhaps even fantastical question"
  • 2. Ask the main question (see verbatim phrase)
  • 3. Allow time to think (a pause of 30–60 seconds)
  • 4. Listen carefully to the first answer
  • 5. Develop: "What else will be different?"
  • 6. Repeat "What else?" 5–7 times in a row
  • 7. Move to others: "What will the people close to you notice?"
  • 8. Develop the consequences: "How will it affect the rest of the day? The week?"
  • 9. Build the full picture — this becomes the target state

When to use:

  • After the description of the problem, at the start of the work on the solution
  • The client is immersed in the problem and sees no way out
  • There is a need to move from "problem talk" to "solution talk"
  • The client does not believe change is possible
  • A concrete goal for the session is needed
  • The client cannot put themselves on a scale (perception is too abstract)

Key phrases:

Now I want to ask you an unusual question. Suppose that tonight, while you are asleep and the whole house is quiet, a miracle happens. The miracle is that the problem that brought you here has been solved. But you were asleep, so you do not know that the miracle has happened. When you wake up tomorrow morning — what will be different? What will tell you that the miracle has happened and the problem is solved?

Follow-up questions:

What else will be different?
What will the people around you notice? How will they understand?
How will your [husband/wife/child/colleague] react?
What will you do differently on this day?
How will it affect the rest of your day? The week?
How will this day differ from a usual one?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not skip the question if the client says "I don't know" — that is normal, develop the answer
  • ⚠️ If the client describes only emotions ("I will feel better"), translate into actions: "What will you be doing when you feel better?"
  • ⚠️ If they describe the impossible ("Bring back the deceased"), acknowledge the pain and reframe: "What might a life look like in which you are coping with this loss?"
  • ⚠️ Do not finish the client's thought — every "What else?" must be their discovery
  • ⚠️ When the client is silent — that is not a problem. Be silent with them. Count to 10 in your head. The most valuable things surface in the silence.
  • ⚠️ Short answers ("I'll feel better") are not a stop. Continue with another 5–7 "What else?" in a row.
  • ⚠️ An impossible future — do not argue. Acknowledge that it is hard, then: "What part of this is possible?"

de Shazer (1984), the central tool of BFTC

Scaling QuestionsScaling Questions

A translation of abstract states into concrete numbers (0–10). It creates a "therapeutic tension" — a visible difference between "now" and "the desired". It allows even micro-movement to be measured (from 4 to 4.5 — that is a victory).

  • 1. Introduce the scale: "I want to ask about progress. Imagine a scale from 0 to 10"
  • 2. Explain the poles: "0 is the worst moment [of what was described], and 10 is your life after the miracle [from the Miracle Question]"
  • 3. Ask the main question: "Where are you now?"
  • 4. After the answer (important!): "Why are you at [N] and not lower?" (a question about resources)
  • 5. Develop: "What keeps you from sliding one point lower?"
  • 6. Micro-movement: "What will be different when you are at [N+1]?"
  • 7. The "good enough" point: "What number would be good enough for you?"
  • 8. In a follow-up session: "Where are you now? How did you get there?"

When to use:

  • After the description of the problem and the desired future
  • To measure progress between sessions
  • The client says "It will never change" — ask "Why not 0?" (it will reveal resources)
  • A client in depression (says "1") — coping questions on the basis of the scale
  • The client seems to be at 10 — maybe therapy is not needed?

Key phrases:

On a scale from 0 to 10, where 0 is the worst moment and 10 is your life after the miracle (where everything is sorted), where are you now?
Why are you at [N] and not at 0? What is holding you?
What helps you stay at this level?

Follow-up questions:

What will be different when you are at [N+1]?
Where would your [husband/mother/colleague] put you on this scale? Why exactly there?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ At 0 or 1 — do not give advice right away. Coping: "How do you manage to keep going day after day?" (uncover hidden resources)
  • ⚠️ At 10 — the client may be ready to end therapy. Ask: "What tells you that you are at 10? How did you achieve this?"
  • ⚠️ Does not want a number — do not insist. The scale is a tool, not an obligation
  • ⚠️ The scale is not necessary in SOS — if there is little time (close to the end of the session), it can be skipped

de Shazer, Berg, a classical tool of BFTC

Exception Finding / Exception QuestionsException Finding / Exception Questions

Exceptions are real moments when the problem does not arise or shows up less strongly. This is not a dream, but a fact. The client already knows how to live without the problem or with it in its minimal form. The task: notice it and repeat.

  • 1. Listen to the description of the problem ("I am constantly irritated by my children")
  • 2. Ask the search question: "When was the last time the irritation was less strong?"
  • 3. Wait for the answer (it might be "a week ago" or even "this morning")
  • 4. Develop: "What was different at that moment? What were you doing?"
  • 5. Translate into behavior: "How did you manage to hold back? What helped?"
  • 6. Reinforce: "Interesting. Could you do this again?"

When to use:

  • After the description of the problem, in parallel with the Miracle Question
  • The client says "It is always like this", "It never goes away" — use it to dispel the generalization
  • The client sees no resources — exceptions often reveal them
  • The client has been in a state (depression, anxiety) for a long time — find recent moments of relief
  • Family work — "When was your family in a good mood?"

Key phrases:

When was the last time the problem was less noticeable?
Are there moments when the problem does not bother you?
Can you recall a time when [the symptom] was not as strong?

Follow-up questions:

What was different at that moment?
What were you doing differently?
How did you manage it then?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ "It never happens" is a belief, not a fact. Continue: "Not once this week? This day? Even five minutes?"
  • ⚠️ The client says "It was random" — that is good! Randomness can be repeated. "How did it happen randomly? What was each person's role?"
  • ⚠️ An exception in the distant past — do not use, too far. Look in the present.
  • ⚠️ Rule: if the exception arises by chance — include an element of chance in the task. "Tomorrow, flip a coin: heads — observe, tails — try what helped"
  • ⚠️ A useful exception is described in behavioral terms (not "I felt better" but "I got up earlier, did exercise, talked normally with my wife")
  • ⚠️ The exception arose recently — not historical detours ("20 years ago I was happy"), but yesterday, this week, this month

de Shazer (early SFBT, 1980s), the main technique within "if something works, do more of it"

Coping QuestionsCoping Questions

Instead of looking for a solution we acknowledge the reality of the pain and ask: how do you keep going at all? This shows the resources and competencies of the client even in the bleakest situation. Often used at the lower end of the scale (0–3).

  • 1. Hear the description of a hard situation (suicidal thoughts, severe pain, crisis)
  • 2. Do not rush with advice or reassurance
  • 3. Ask a coping question
  • 4. Listen carefully — there are already resources in the answer
  • 5. Develop: "What else? Who helps you? What do you enjoy, despite everything?"
  • 6. Strengthen the awareness: "It is amazing that you are doing all this. Where do you draw your strength from?"

When to use:

  • When the client is in a hard state and cannot find exceptions or imagine a miracle
  • Suicidal risk, self-harming behavior
  • Depression, anhedonia (the absence of pleasure)
  • Trauma, PTSD
  • Acute grief
  • Chronic pain, incurable illness
  • Poverty, social exclusion

Key phrases:

How do you manage to cope with this day after day?
What helps you keep going, despite all this?
How do you manage to stay alive, despite this pain?
What is holding you? What is stopping you?

Follow-up questions:

What do you do to keep the situation from getting even worse?
How do you help yourself?
What do you enjoy, despite all this?
Who helps you? How do they help?
It is amazing that you are doing all this. Where do you draw your strength from?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not replace standard SFBT with this — with suicidal thoughts, a safety assessment comes first
  • ⚠️ Do not minimize the pain — "As you can see, it is not that bad" — would be insulting
  • ⚠️ Listen to the answers carefully — the client often reveals what helps them survive (an animal, a friend, creativity, nature)

de Shazer, later developed in BRIEF (Ratner, George, Iveson) and the Bruges Model

Relationship QuestionsRelationship Questions

A question that shifts attention from the client's own perception to the perception of another person. "How do you see yourself now?" turns into "And how does your wife see this?" This widens the perspective and often opens new possibilities.

  • 1. The client has described a relationship problem ("We are constantly in conflict")
  • 2. After the work on the Miracle Question and the scale, ask about the other person
  • 3. "Where would your wife place you on this scale?"
  • 4. "What would she notice if you moved up by one point?"
  • 5. "How would she know that the miracle has happened?"

When to use:

  • When working with problems in relationships, family, a team
  • Family therapy — work with triangles (often a third family member hides the essence of the problem)
  • Couple therapy — when partners see the problem differently
  • Work with parents and children — divergence in perception
  • Work conflicts — different sides' views

Key phrases:

On this same scale, where does your [husband/wife/child/colleague] see you?
What would he/she notice if the miracle happened?
How would he/she understand that you moved up by one point?

Follow-up questions:

What from our conversation would surprise him/her the most?
If I asked him/her now, what would he/she say about your relationship?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not use it for criticism: "Your wife probably sees you at zero" — would be hurtful. Instead: "What would she notice if you moved up?"
  • ⚠️ Be careful in conflict — sides may close off if they feel they are not being seen
  • ⚠️ Do not shift responsibility — "See, your wife is right and you are wrong" — that is not SFBT

de Shazer, developed in family therapy work

ComplimentsCompliments

In classical Milwaukee SFBT, compliments are not flattery but recognition of the client's concrete resources, actions, and competencies. They close the session and consolidate the awareness: "You are already using these strengths — keep going".

  • 1. After the break (if there is one) or at the end of the session
  • 2. Begin with observations made in the session: "I am impressed."
  • 3. Point to concrete actions: "..that you booked this appointment and came despite being busy"
  • 4. Tie it to resources: "That speaks to your willpower and responsibility"
  • 5. Several compliments may be given (3–5)

When to use:

  • Mostly at the end of the session (after the break), but possible during the work too
  • The end of the first session (mandatory)
  • A Visualizer-type client ("I can and I cannot") — needs a demonstration of competencies
  • A demoralized client — needs to recover faith in themselves
  • A follow-up session after a first one in which the client was uncertain

Key phrases:

I am impressed that you found the strength to come here, despite the pain
I see that you are a very responsible person — you came to the meeting even in this state
It is striking that you keep trying despite the disappointments

Follow-up questions:

How do you manage to stay so strong in this situation?
Where do you draw the patience to care for your children like that?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Not flattery — "You have very beautiful hair" and so on. That is not resources, that is a compliment in the ordinary sense
  • ⚠️ Not generic — "You are a wonderful person" is bland. Be concrete: "I am impressed that you."
  • ⚠️ Not criticism in the guise of a compliment — "Good that you are finally doing something" — a hidden attack

de Shazer, Berg (classical Milwaukee SFBT)

Prediction TaskPrediction Task

The client predicts whether tomorrow will be a "good day" or not. In the evening, they check. Often the prediction and reality do not match — and that opens new possibilities.

  • 1. Closing the session: "Between now and our next meeting."
  • 2. "Every morning, predict to yourself whether this will be a good day or a bad one"
  • 3. "Write it down"
  • 4. "In the evening, check: did your forecast match reality?"
  • 5. In the next session: "What did you notice?"

When to use:

  • As an observation task, when the client is in a state of uncertainty
  • A client in heavy depression (the world is seen as exclusively negative)
  • The client says "Every day is the same"
  • The client wants to do something but does not know what
  • Patterns of catastrophizing

Key phrases:

I want to suggest an experiment. Every morning when you wake up, I want you to ask yourself: will this be a good day or a bad one? And in the evening, check whether it matched what happened. Just notice.

Follow-up questions:

What did you notice?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not turn it into a checklist — this is not control, not a report
  • ⚠️ Do not analyze the predictions right away — "Aha, you got it wrong!" — no. Just: "Interesting, what did you notice?"

de Shazer, a classical observation task

Visitor, Complainer, CustomerVisitor, Complainer, Customer

de Shazer and Berg classified clients not by diagnosis but by the type of relationship between the client and the therapist. These are not labels but a description of what is happening at the present moment. The type can change even within a single session. Three types: Visitor — no complaint, no choice in coming; Complainer — there is a complaint, but no readiness to act; Customer — there is a complaint plus readiness to act.

  • 1. In the first 10–15 minutes, identify the type of relationship
  • 2. For a Visitor: do not give tasks, give a compliment for coming, help find their own complaint, the goal is to turn them into a Complainer
  • 3. For a Complainer: give only observation tasks, deconstruct the frame "I cannot do anything", the goal is to activate awareness of their own role
  • 4. For a Customer: the full SFBT toolkit, action tasks, fast pace

When to use:

  • Throughout the session, especially at the start (the first 10–15 minutes)
  • A referred client (school, court, doctor)
  • A spouse who did not want to come
  • A resistant parent
  • Every client at the start of the work

Key phrases:

Whose idea was it to come here? (for a Visitor)
What would have to change so that [the person who referred you] would stop worrying? (for a Visitor)
How will you know that these meetings are helping you specifically? (for a Visitor)
Let us find what is useful here for you (for a Visitor)
Okay, you see this is a problem. What of this might depend on you? (for a Complainer)
What have you already tried? (for a Complainer)
I want to suggest that you observe when the problem is a little less noticeable. Just notice. (for a Complainer)
Let us look in more detail at what this might look like (for a Customer)
What are you ready to try? (for a Customer)

Follow-up questions:

How will you know that these meetings have been useful for you personally?
What in this situation depends on you?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not label — this is not a diagnosis but a description of the relationship at this moment
  • ⚠️ It can change within a session — a Visitor may become a Complainer if they have found their own interest
  • ⚠️ A Complainer toward action → only observation tasks; a Customer → the full toolkit
  • ⚠️ Do not blame a Complainer — "You yourself are doing nothing" would be insulting. "What did you notice?" is softer

de Shazer, Berg (early SFBT, 1980s)

EARS (Elicit, Amplify, Reinforce, Start Over)EARS (Elicit, Amplify, Reinforce, Start Over)

EARS is a structured approach to interviewing developed at BRIEF (Ratner, George, Iveson) for the most effective gathering of information and amplification of positive aspects. Four steps: E — Elicit, A — Amplify, R — Reinforce, S — Start Over (with a different perspective).

  • E — Elicit: 1. Ask an open question: "What brought you here?" 2. Listen, do not interrupt 3. Ask clarifying questions about best hopes
  • A — Amplify: 1. Repeat key words: "You said you want to be closer to your children" 2. Expand: "What does that mean? What does it look like?" 3. Ask in more detail: "Give an example"
  • R — Reinforce: 1. Acknowledge the importance: "This matters a lot to you" 2. Give a compliment: "I see that you care" 3. Ask about resources: "What is already working a little?"
  • S — Start Over: 1. With another family member or another perspective 2. Then connect the different points of view

When to use:

  • In work with families, groups, complex stories
  • Family therapy
  • Mediation in a conflict
  • A multi-voice situation

Key phrases:

What would you like to change in your family? (Elicit)
What are your best hopes? (Elicit)

Follow-up questions:

You said "we are closer to each other". What does that look like? (Amplify)
Give an example of when you are already a little closer (Amplify)
This is very important — the wish to be closer (Reinforce)
It is clear that all of you want good relationships (Reinforce)
Now I want to ask the mother what she would like (Start Over)

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not skip Reinforce — without acknowledgment the family may not feel heard
  • ⚠️ Start Over does not mean ignoring what was said — it is a return with another voice

BRIEF (Ratner, George, Iveson)

Skeleton KeysSkeleton Keys

"Keys" — universal questions that work on almost any problem. They do not solve anything, they open doors.

  • 1. Identify what exactly needs to be opened: best hopes, concretization, resources, signs of progress, or exceptions
  • 2. Pick the corresponding key from the set
  • 3. Ask the question and listen to the answer
  • 4. Develop with other keys

When to use:

  • When a universal technique applicable to any problem is needed
  • The therapist does not know what to ask
  • An entry into the topic is needed without using specific techniques

Key phrases:

What do you need to feel that the session has been useful? (Best Hopes)
When this changes — what will it look like? (Concretization)
What else? (Expansion)
Where do you draw the energy to keep going? (Resources)
How will you know that change is starting? (Signs of progress)
When was the last time it was better? (Exceptions)

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not use as filler — every key should be asked with intention
  • ⚠️ The keys are not interchangeable — choose by the door you actually want to open

BRIEF, Diamond Model

Best HopesBest Hopes

BRIEF shifted the opening of the session from "What brought you?" (the problem) to "What are your best hopes?" (the solution). This is an even more direct path to the desired future. The difference from the Miracle Question: more direct, less fantastical, more practical.

  • 1. Open the session (instead of, or in addition to, the standard question about the problem)
  • 2. Ask the best-hopes question
  • 3. Develop: "What will it look like? What will be different?"
  • 4. Use the answer as the basis for the further work

When to use:

  • Instead of the Miracle Question, or as a session-opener variant
  • When the client is not ready for a fantastical scenario
  • For practically oriented clients
  • In a follow-up session as a refinement of progress

Key phrases:

What are your best hopes for our meeting?
If this meeting is useful — what will you notice?
How will you know that it was worth coming?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not turn it into a goal-setting form — it is a question for opening, not for filling out
  • ⚠️ Allow time — the answer may not come at once

BRIEF (Ratner, George, Iveson, late 1980s); Elliott Connie

Preferred FuturePreferred Future

The client constructs the question about the desired future themselves. The therapist does not ask the question but creates the condition for the client to come up with it on their own. An alternative to the Miracle Question in the CoLeC approach (Panayotov).

  • 1. Instead of asking your own question about the future, ask the client about their question
  • 2. Ask the question about the question (see verbatim phrase)
  • 3. The client formulates the question about their future
  • 4. Ask the client to answer this question

When to use:

  • An alternative to the Miracle Question
  • When even more responsibility is to be handed to the client
  • In the CoLeC approach (Panayotov)

Key phrases:

What question about your future would be the most important one for you?

Follow-up questions:

How would you answer this question?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not impose — if the client cannot find a question, switch to the Miracle Question or Best Hopes
  • ⚠️ Do not interpret the question chosen — it is the client's, not yours

CoLeC (Plamen Panayotov, Bulgaria)

NormalizingNormalizing

A technique that shows the client that their state, feelings, and behavior are a normal reaction to the situation. This is not a defect of personality but a natural human response. Often it is literally one sentence, but it can free the client from shame.

  • 1. The client describes something they are ashamed of ("I yell at my children")
  • 2. Do not justify right away and do not moralize
  • 3. Normalize: "This is a completely normal reaction. Many parents under stress." or "When people are in despair, they often."
  • 4. Move to action: "What helps you cope better?"

When to use:

  • Working with a client who feels "strange", "wrong", ashamed
  • A client with shame (about an affair, neglect, taboo behavior)
  • Strange thoughts, images, impulses (in OCD, anxiety, trauma)
  • Unwanted behavior (breakdowns, leaving, violence)
  • Coping through compulsions (alcohol, drugs, pornography)
  • Trauma ("I cannot look people in the eye")

Key phrases:

This is a completely normal reaction to what you are going through
I often hear the same thing from people in a similar situation
It does not mean that you are a bad person — it means that you are under stress

Follow-up questions:

This is a very common thought when a person is in depression
People often imagine the worst when they are anxious
This is a normal way of coping when there are no other tools
Relief and guilt often go side by side in such situations
After trauma, numbness often appears — it is a protective reaction

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not justify the behavior — "Your violence is normal" — no. The reaction is normal, the behavior is not
  • ⚠️ Do not reinforce dysfunction — "Many people in depression live like this" can close the topic. After normalizing: "Let us see how this might change"
  • ⚠️ Be sincere — if you say "this is normal" but think "this is awful", the client will feel the inauthenticity

de Shazer (an idealistic view of the client as a normal person in an abnormal situation)

ReframingReframing

Classical reframing is a change of meaning without a change of facts. "Your husband forgets your birthday" can be redefined as "Your husband stresses and forgets details when he is under pressure". A different meaning → a different path of action.

  • 1. Hear the client's interpretation ("I am a failure")
  • 2. Ask whether there is another way to see it: "It could also be put this way: you have tried many times and each time drew on the experience"
  • 3. Or give an example: "In sport this is called learning"
  • 4. Do not impose — offer: "How does this version land for you?"

When to use:

  • When the client looks at the situation through one filter and a different one needs to be shown
  • A client with low self-esteem and a negative self-perception
  • A problem that is seen as a personality pathology (but may be an adaptation)
  • A partner's behavior that is interpreted as hostile (may be an attempt to cope)
  • Intrusive thoughts, feelings — redefining as a signal rather than as illness

Key phrases:

Could the same thing be called.?
There is another way to look at this.
If you arrange the details differently.

Follow-up questions:

What you see as a weakness, I would call [another quality]
This is not a failure — it is.[the reframe]
How does this version land for you?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Not gaslighting — "You are not in depression, you are just lazy" — no. That is not reframing, that is denial
  • ⚠️ Not forced positive psychology — "See, in the bad there is always something good!" — can be insensitive
  • ⚠️ Respect the first version — listen fully, then: "Maybe there is another version too?"

de Shazer (the key idea: "the nature of the problem does not determine the nature of the solution"), developed in NLP

What Else?What Else?

The simplest and most powerful question in SFBT. One word opens up a new layer of information. Often used 5–7 times in a row, and never to be rushed.

  • 1. The client has answered the Miracle Question ("I will get up earlier")
  • 2. Ask: "What else?" and stay silent
  • 3. Wait for the answer (a 10–20 second pause is normal)
  • 4. Again: "What else?"
  • 5. Repeat as long as answers keep coming
  • 6. When new details run out — stop

When to use:

  • Developing the Miracle Question (must be used)
  • Drawing out details with a vague answer
  • Widening perspective
  • When the therapist is lost and does not know what to ask

Key phrases:

What else?

Follow-up questions:

What will it look like?
Who will notice it?
How will it affect.?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not rush — a 10–20 second pause after "What else?" is normal. The best answers surface later
  • ⚠️ Do not turn it into an interrogation — if the client is tired of answering, stop
  • ⚠️ Do not use it as filler — every "What else?" should have a purpose

de Shazer, a universal SFBT instrument

Do One Thing DifferentDo One Thing Different

Not a huge life change, but one small detail. It can be anything — the time of a walk, the order of a conversation, the channel of communication. The point is to break the pattern.

  • 1. The client has described a repeating cycle ("We always argue about money")
  • 2. Ask: "If you do everything the same way, what will happen?"
  • 3. "And if you change one small detail? What might that be?"
  • 4. Do not suggest — let them come up with it
  • 5. "How will you know that it has worked?"

When to use:

  • When the client realizes that the behavior is not working but does not know what specifically to change
  • Behavior patterns that do not work (arguments, avoidance, control)
  • When the client says "It is all hopeless" — to show that even a small thing can help
  • Family cycles, stagnant situations
  • Work with a Complainer (type of relationship) who is not ready to act fully

Key phrases:

If you changed one, very small detail in this cycle, what might that be?
What one thing could you do differently, without changing the rest?

Follow-up questions:

Interesting. How will you know that it helped?
What will change in their reaction if you do this?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Not too small — "Smile a little" against the background of crisis would hurt
  • ⚠️ Not too big — "Move house" is not "one detail"
  • ⚠️ Experiment together — "What might happen? Maybe nothing. Or maybe."

de Shazer (briefly, the SFBT idea of small steps)

Three HousesThree Houses

A visual technique that helps a child and a family talk about themselves through the metaphor of houses: "The house I live in", "The house of my dreams", "The house of my worries". Not a verbal conversation but a creative process — the child can draw and speak at the same time, which reveals the inner world beyond pat answers.

  • 1. Draw three houses (schematically)
  • 2. "In this house I live now" — the child draws/describes
  • 3. "In this house are my dreams" — what they want
  • 4. "In this house are my worries/fears" — what worries them
  • 5. Listen and ask: "What do you need to get from house 1 to house 2?"

When to use:

  • Working with children (especially 5–12 years old)
  • With complex family histories
  • When verbal conversation is difficult or limited by age

Key phrases:

In this house I live now — draw or tell what is there
In this house are my dreams — what would you like?
In this house are my fears — what worries you?
What do you need to get from house 1 to house 2?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not interpret the drawing — the child is the author
  • ⚠️ Do not push for the "right" content — what is in the house is what is in the house

Sheratan, the development of SFBT for children

Black BoxBlack Box

The "black box" is unknown content that looks like magic but is real. When the client does not know the logic but sees the result, you can ask: "How do you do this without knowing how?" Used when the client cannot explain why something worked, but the result is there.

  • 1. The client says that something helped, but does not understand why
  • 2. Acknowledge the fact of the result: "It worked"
  • 3. Ask the black-box question (see verbatim phrase)
  • 4. Help the client see that even without understanding the mechanism, they can repeat it

When to use:

  • When the client cannot explain why something worked
  • A child cannot explain how they managed to study consistently for a month
  • A couple does not remember what changed, but the relationship has gotten better
  • A client copes with panic but does not know the mechanism

Key phrases:

You say you do not know why it worked. But it worked. It is like a black box — we do not understand what is inside, but the result is there. Could you do this again?

Warnings:

  • ⚠️ Do not turn the question into an interrogation — once is enough
  • ⚠️ Do not insist on an explanation if it is not coming — the point is permission to repeat without one

A development of SFBT, practical observation

ALLIANCE

FOCUS

INTERVENTIONS

PRESENCE

CLOSING

🔧 Adapted diary
This approach does not define a standardized client diary. We prepared an adapted version based on its key concepts. If you have suggestions, write to us.
Solution Diary

SFBT looks for solutions instead of analyzing problems.

By noticing exceptions and resources, you build the preferred future.

Record an exception → what helped → one step toward the goal.

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