When a client systematically devalues their successes or sabotages progress, the therapist predicts that sabotage in advance. "I notice that every time things start to work, you find a way to retreat. I'll bet something will get in the way this week too." This makes the sabotage conscious and takes away its force.
Step-by-step guide
- Notice the pattern of sabotage: the client regularly undoes progress
- Name the pattern aloud, gently and with humor
- Predict: 'I expect something will get in the way this week again'
- In the next session: discuss what happened
- If the sabotage did not occur — encourage. If it did — 'I did warn you, right?'
When to use
- In chronic sabotage of therapy progress
- When the client devalues their achievements
- In the 'two steps forward, three back' pattern
- When the therapist feels frustration from repetition
Key phrases
I notice a pattern: every time things start to work, something gets in the way. What will it be this week?
You did brilliantly. Now I'm curious — how will you undo it?
Follow-up questions
What happened? Was I right?
Interesting — you did not sabotage it. What was different?
Alternative phrasings
I'll bet by Friday you'll find a reason why this 'doesn't count'
You're smiling now — because you recognize yourself?
Warnings
- ⚠️ Requires a strong alliance — do not use in early sessions
- ⚠️ The tone is warm humor, not sarcasm
- ⚠️ If the client takes offense — return to empathy at once
Source: Carlson J. Watts R. Maniacci M. Adlerian Therapy: Theory and Practice
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