Practicing new behavior in session before applying it in life. After the remediation phase of SA — "let's try out how this would look".
Step-by-step guide
- After the remediation phase of SA: "You identified what could have been done differently. Let's try it"
- Enact the situation: "I'll be [colleague / friend]. Show me how you would say it the new way"
- Give feedback: "When you said X — I felt Y. Is that closer to the DO?"
- Try again with adjustments
- Ask: "How was it? What was difficult?"
- Assignment: "This week, try it in a real situation. Write down the SA"
When to use
- After the remediation phase of SA
- When the client has identified an alternative behavior but is not sure of it
Key phrases
You now have a better behavior on paper. Let's put it in the air. I will play the colleague. Try saying the line exactly the way you would like to — not perfectly, just closer to the DO.
Follow-up questions
How was that to say out loud?
What part felt most unfamiliar?
What did my response tell you about the effect?
What would you tweak on the next try?
Alternative phrasings
First pass is always awkward — that is expected.
We can do it three times — each pass gets closer.
Warnings
- ⚠️ Do not demand perfection. The first attempt is already progress.
- ⚠️ Build gradually.
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