Making the resistance visible as it appears in the relationship with the therapist so it can no longer remain vague or hidden.
Step-by-step guide
- Observe the defense in relation to the therapist
- Name it as a present-moment process
- Show how it blocks closeness and help
- Link it to suffering outside therapy
- Invite the client to face the feeling toward the therapist
When to use
- When resistance is active in the therapeutic relationship
- When the client avoids the therapist's help
- When transference feelings are near the surface
Key phrases
This wall is between you and me right now.
Follow-up questions
What do you feel toward me as I point this out?
How does this same wall appear outside this room?
Alternative phrasings
The resistance is no longer abstract; it is happening here.
Can we look at what you are doing with me right now?
Warnings
- โ ๏ธ Requires a working alliance
- โ ๏ธ Do not shame the client for resistance
- โ ๏ธ Monitor anxiety continuously
Source: Davanloo, H. ISTDP supervision tradition
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