Using the client's live response to the therapist as a focused route into the central conflict.
Step-by-step guide
- Notice the client's expectation or reaction toward the therapist
- Name it tentatively
- Ask for the feeling in the room
- Link it to current and past relationships
- Use the new experience to revise the pattern
When to use
- When the client reacts strongly to the therapist
- When the central conflict appears in session
- When alliance is sufficient
Key phrases
What do you imagine I am thinking of you right now?
Follow-up questions
What do you feel toward me as I say this?
Is this familiar from other relationships?
Alternative phrasings
Something important is happening between us right now.
Let us use what is happening here.
Warnings
- β οΈ Do not overinterpret normal relational reactions
- β οΈ Do not use transference work without alliance
- β οΈ Monitor shame and withdrawal
Source: Malan, D. Strupp, H. Luborsky, L
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