Working with ambivalence by analyzing short-term benefits and long-term costs of emotional avoidance and clarifying life goals.
Step-by-step guide
- List what the client gets from avoidance in the short term
- List what avoidance costs over time
- Visualize life if emotions no longer controlled behavior
- Set three concrete therapy goals
- Define the first step for each goal
- Discuss readiness for discomfort
When to use
- Module 1
- Again before exposure if motivation drops
Key phrases
What does avoidance give you now, and what does it take from you later?
Follow-up questions
What would life look like if emotions no longer ran the show?
What is the smallest first step?
How ready are you for discomfort in the service of change?
Alternative phrasings
Ambivalence is not resistance; it is material for the work.
Warnings
- ⚠️ Do not pressure the client
- ⚠️ If readiness is low, return to motivation rather than forcing exposure
Source: Barlow et al. 2018
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