A unique technique by Ellis, based on his belief in the therapeutic power of humor. Clients are offered specially written songs by Ellis, set to well-known tunes, with lyrics that ridicule irrational beliefs. Humor helps the client distance themselves from the IB and see its absurdity without heavy confrontation.
Step-by-step guide
- Identify the client's key IB (for example, "I must be loved by everyone")
- Explain the use of humor in REBT: "Laughter helps break the seriousness of an IB"
- Offer the client several songs by Ellis matching their IB (from the RHS collection)
- Read or sing the song together in session
- Discuss: what IBs does the lyric ridicule? Does the client recognize their own beliefs?
- Assign as homework: sing the chosen song several times a day
- In the next session, discuss: has the view of the IB changed?
When to use
- When the client takes their IBs "too seriously" and cannot distance themselves
- In work with perfectionism and approval-seeking — themes that lend themselves to humor
- To release tension in session and create lightness
Key phrases
Ellis wrote a song exactly about this belief. Want to listen — I'm curious whether you recognize yourself?
Let's try singing it together — no flawless performance required, it's not a concert.
When this thought comes again — sing this song. See what happens.
Follow-up questions
Did you sing? What did you feel while singing about your belief in such words?
The humor here is not at you — it is at the belief. Do you see the difference?
Which words in the song landed most accurately on your IB?
Alternative phrasings
We are laughing at the belief, never at you — keep that line clear.
A song you can hum in traffic disputes the IB ten times before you reach work.
Pick a tune you already know — the melody carries the argument for you.
Warnings
- ⚠️ Some clients find the technique unserious or take offense — preparation is needed
- ⚠️ The humor must not mock the client — only the IB
- ⚠️ Do not use in acute depression or severe trauma
- ⚠️ The technique works better in a group context or when the therapist is willing to sing
Source: Ellis, A. (1977/1987). Fun as Psychotherapy; Ellis, A. Chapter in Fry & Salameh (eds.) Handbook of Humor and Psychotherapy (1987)
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