Continuous observation of the smallest bodily signals of the client: micro-movements, breath, tone of voice, facial expression. The foundation of Hakomi — reading the organization of experience through the body.
Step-by-step guide
- Gently focus your attention on the client's body, not on their words
- Notice: gestures, micro-movements, shifts of posture
- Observe the breath: rhythm, depth, pauses
- Listen to the voice: tone, volume, speed, silences
- When you notice a signal — name it gently: "I notice your hand tightened"
- Invite the client to turn attention there: "Do you feel that?"
When to use
- Continuously, through the whole session
- Not a separate technique — the basic skill of the Hakomi therapist
Key phrases
I'll be paying close attention to small things — a shift in your breath, a movement of your hand, the tone of your voice. I'll say what I notice out loud, softly. Nothing to do — just so you can notice it too.
Follow-up questions
I noticed your shoulders lifted just then — do you feel that?
Your breath went a little shallower. Can you stay with that for a moment?
Something in your voice changed on that word. Do you recognize it?
There was a tiny movement in your hand. What was it?
Alternative phrasings
If my observation misses, tell me — you are the expert on what is actually happening.
I am noticing, not interpreting. The meaning is yours.
Warnings
- ⚠️ Do not interpret. "I notice" — not "this means".
- ⚠️ Be careful with projection. Check: does the client recognize your observation?
Source: Kurtz, 1990; Johanson & Kurtz, 1991
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