A focused sequence for noticing resistance, asking for concrete detail, and returning the client to the central conflict.
Step-by-step guide
- Notice the resistance
- Ask for a concrete example
- Clarify what the resistance protects from
- Name the cost gently
- Return to the focus
When to use
- When the client becomes vague or intellectual
- When sessions drift
- When the central conflict is avoided
Key phrases
Can we slow down and look at the exact moment?
Follow-up questions
What are we moving away from?
What feeling might this protect you from?
Alternative phrasings
Let us bring this back to the focus.
I think something important is being avoided.
Warnings
- ⚠️ Do not shame resistance
- ⚠️ Do not become punitive about focus
- ⚠️ Support and confrontation must stay balanced
Source: Malan, D. Strupp, H
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