A self-as-context exercise. The client recalls different life stages and notices that thoughts, roles, body and circumstances have changed, while the perspective from which experience is noticed has a continuity. This does not prove a metaphysical self; it helps the client loosen fusion with current roles or stories.
Step-by-step guide
- Ask the client to remember themselves at age five, fifteen and today.
- Notice what changed: body, roles, worries, beliefs, relationships.
- Ask: "Was there a sense of 'I' noticing life then and now?"
- Separate observer from content: "You have had many stories; you are also the one who notices them."
- Link to current difficulty: "Can this current story also be noticed, rather than obeyed?"
When to use
- Identity fusion: "I am broken," "I am my diagnosis."
- Life transitions and role loss.
- Shame and rigid self-concepts.
- Deepening self-as-context after simpler defusion work.
Key phrases
Think of yourself as a child, as a teenager and now. So much changed. What, if anything, has stayed as the one who notices?
Follow-up questions
You had different thoughts then. You have different thoughts now. Are you only those thoughts?
Can you notice this current story from the same observing place?
What becomes possible when you are not identical to the story?
Alternative phrasings
The movie has many scenes; the screen has been there for all of them.
Warnings
- ⚠️ Use cautiously with dissociation or depersonalization.
- ⚠️ Do not turn the exercise into philosophical debate; keep it experiential.
Source: Hayes, S. C. Strosahl, K. D. & Wilson, K. G. (2011). Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
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