The key step of focusing: the client picks one theme and lets the body form a whole, pre-conceptual sense of the entire situation. The felt sense is not an emotion and not a thought, but something between, vague and at the same time carrying more information than words.
Step-by-step guide
- The client picks one theme from the cleared space (or the topic of the session)
- Invite NOT to dive into the problem mentally: "Be alongside it, do not dive in"
- Ask the guiding question: "How does all of this together feel in the body?"
- Wait 30–60 seconds — the felt sense needs time to form
- If the client starts to analyze — gently bring back to the body: "Not from the head, but from the body"
- Help to notice: "Where in the body do you feel it? Chest? Belly? Throat?"
- Confirm: "Stay with this sensation. Do not rush to name it"
When to use
- After clearing a space — a theme has been chosen for work
- The client speaks "about" the problem but does not feel it
- The client is stuck in familiar emotion labels
- When we need to go beyond cognitive analysis
- The client knows what the problem is, but nothing changes
Key phrases
How does all of this together feel in the body?
Do not dive into the problem — be alongside it. How does it feel?
Wait. let it form. do not rush.
Follow-up questions
Where in the body do you sense it?
If this sensation had a quality — what kind?
What is its texture, temperature, density?
Stay with this. What is coming?
Alternative phrasings
For "too in the head": "Let us set the analysis aside for a minute. Just notice how it feels in the body"
For "I feel nothing": "That is okay. Be with this 'nothing'. Sometimes 'nothing' is the start"
For a client quickly naming an emotion: "Wait, check — is there something else behind this anxiety? How does the whole situation feel as a whole?"
Warnings
- ⚠️ A felt sense is NOT an ordinary emotion (anxiety, sadness) and NOT a physical sensation (pain, itch)
- ⚠️ If the client answers too quickly — it is most likely from the head, not from the body
- ⚠️ Do not rush: 30–60 seconds of silence is normal and necessary
- ⚠️ Distinguish "talking about" (EXP levels 1–3) and "sensing" (level 4+)
- ⚠️ Some clients need several sessions to learn to make contact with the felt sense
Source: Gendlin E. 1978/1981, Focusing; 1996, Focusing-Oriented Psychotherapy
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