The central aim of existential analysis — to help the client come to "inner consent" with what they do and how they live. This is a felt "yes" to one's life — an authentic affirmation, not a forced submission. Längle describes this as the cornerstone of an existentially fulfilled life. The work is built on checking four conditions: "Can I do this? Do I want to? Is this fair toward me? Should I?"
Step-by-step guide
- Inquire in which spheres of life the client is acting "on credit" — without inner consent
- Phenomenologically inquire what gets in the way of saying "yes" (fear, duty, habit, outside pressure)
- Check each of the four conditions: "Can I do this? Do I want to? Is this fair toward me? Should I?"
- Work with the bodily signal: what does the body "say" when you imagine this choice?
- Help to find a path to a decision or change to which inner consent is possible
When to use
- With chronic dissatisfaction with life, the sense of emptiness, "living a life that is not mine"
- With inner conflicts when making decisions
- When the client lives "for others" or "by the rules" at the cost of themselves
- With imposter syndrome, the sense of "a life that is not mine"
Key phrases
Is there something in your life that you do but to which you could not say a wholehearted "yes"? Not just "I agree", but precisely — yes, this is mine?
Follow-up questions
What does your body feel when you imagine saying "yes" to this?
Are you doing this because you want to — or because you have to?
If there were no fear of the consequences — what would you choose?
Alternative phrasings
Is what you do fair toward you? Can you ask yourself such a question?
What needs to change so that you could say "yes" to your life — sincerely?
Warnings
- ⚠️ Inner consent is not consent to any wish; it is consent that has passed through conscience and values
- ⚠️ Do not confuse inner consent with conformism or with what "one feels like in the moment"
- ⚠️ Working with inner consent takes time — do not force the arrival at "yes"
Source: Längle A. 2016, 2013
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