A unique home practice proposed by Ellis: the client applies the REBT method to the problems of their friends, relatives, or colleagues. When the client explains the ABC model to another person and helps dispute their IB, they simultaneously consolidate their own understanding of the rational philosophy. Per Ellis: "The best way to learn material is to teach it".
Step-by-step guide
- When the client has mastered the ABC model and disputing, explain the technique
- Suggest the task: find someone with a psychological problem and try to apply REBT
- The client does this informally — not as a therapist, but as a friend sharing a useful tool
- Debrief in the next session: what worked? Which objections arose? What did they have to explain?
- Discuss what the client understood better or found harder when explaining to another
- If needed — the therapist helps the client deepen the needed concepts
When to use
- In the middle or late stage of therapy, when the REBT basics are in place
- To deepen the internalization of rational beliefs
- For clients inclined toward intellectual work and the helping professions
Key phrases
You have understood ABC well. Try to explain it to someone close — you will see where there are still gaps.
When you teach another — you learn yourself. This is a reality check.
What happened when you tried? Where was it hard for you to explain?
Follow-up questions
You "got stuck" explaining something — that is what we need to work on with you.
How did you feel helping another through REBT?
Alternative phrasings
Teaching a concept is the cleanest audit of whether you actually hold it.
Offer the model as a tool, not as a verdict on the other person's life.
Notice where your explanation stalled — that is your own next lesson.
Warnings
- ⚠️ The client must not take on the role of therapist and carry responsibility for another person's changes
- ⚠️ Do not apply in conflictual relationships — it may worsen the situation
- ⚠️ Some clients may use this as a way to avoid work on themselves
Source: Ellis, A. & Harper, R.A. (1975). A New Guide to Rational Living
Materials are informational and educational and summarize publicly available scientific sources. They are not medical or psychological advice, are not intended for self-diagnosis or self-treatment, and do not replace consultation with a qualified professional.