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Will-Strengthening Method / Working with Will and Decision

Will-Strengthening Method / Working with Will and Decision
Existential Analysis (Längle) (Längle)
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A method for working with situations in which the client "knows what to do", but cannot decide. Längle distinguishes wish (Wunsch), will (Wille), and decision (Entscheidung). A block of the will is often linked with a deficit of inner consent. The task is not to convince the client of the "right" choice, but to help them discover their own will and to build a path to a decision that they can call their own.

Step-by-step guide

  1. Clarify the difference: what does the client wish vs what they truly want vs what they have decided (or cannot decide)
  2. Inquire what blocks the will: fear, uncertainty, conflict of values, others' expectations
  3. Return to the four conditions of inner consent: "Can I? Do I want to? Is this fair toward me? Should I?"
  4. Check the decision through the body — is there a bodily sensation of "yes"
  5. Concretize the first step: what exactly, when, how

When to use

  • With chronic postponing and procrastination
  • With ambivalence and the sense "I cannot decide"
  • When working with life changes (changing job, divorce, moving)
  • When the client says "I know what is needed, but I do not do it"

Key phrases

Do you want this — or do you feel you should want it? This is an important question. Sometimes we confuse another's wish with our own.

Follow-up questions

What gets in the way of saying "yes" to this decision?
What is needed for this decision to become yours — and not someone else's?
If you knew that everything would work out — would you choose precisely this?

Alternative phrasings

Imagine that you have already made this decision. What do you feel in the body?
What is the smallest step you could make in this direction — one that is definitely yours?

Warnings

  • ⚠️ Will is not commanded to the client — the goal is to help discover their own will, not to convince them of the right choice
  • ⚠️ Do not mix will and duty — a decision made "out of fear" is not will
  • ⚠️ With deep ambivalence first inquire into the conflict of values, only then strengthen the decision

Source: Längle A. 2003

decision ambivalence procrastination choice

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