The Six F's is the main structured protocol for establishing contact with a Protector part. Developed by Richard Schwartz as a safe, step-by-step path from the first discovery of a part to understanding its deep fears. The protocol ensures that the Self always remains in the lead. The key step is Feel Toward: it is what shows whether the Self is present or another part is speaking in its place.
Step-by-step guide
- Find — locate the part: what do you notice in the body or the mind right now?
- Focus — direct attention to this part without running away: can you stay with this sensation?
- Flesh Out — get to know the part in more detail: what does it look like? How old is it? What does it say?
- Feel Toward — the key step: "How do you feel toward this part right now?" If there is one of the 8 Cs — the Self is present; if there is irritation or a wish to remove it — it is another part, and unblending is needed
- beFriend — build trust: thank the part, ask what it needs, acknowledge its intention to protect
- Fear — ask about the deeper fear: "What are you afraid would happen if you stopped doing your job?" The answer usually points to the Exile
When to use
- In working with any Protector — this is the basic IFS protocol
- When starting work with a new part
- When the client describes an inner conflict or unwanted behavior
- As a structure for slow, safe work with the system
Key phrases
You notice this critical voice. What does it look like, or where do you feel it? And how do you feel toward it right now, as you look at it?
Follow-up questions
How do you feel toward it as you look at it?
What do you feel toward this part right now?
What is it afraid would happen if it stopped doing its job?
Alternative phrasings
Try thanking it for its work. How long has it been doing this job?
Warnings
- ⚠️ Do not skip step 4 (Feel Toward) — it is the step that shows whether the Self is present
- ⚠️ Do not rush to step 6 (Fear) — friendship is built gradually
- ⚠️ If the part does not want to be fleshed out — respect its pace
Source: Schwartz R.C. 1995, 2021
Materials are informational and educational and summarize publicly available scientific sources. They are not medical or psychological advice, are not intended for self-diagnosis or self-treatment, and do not replace consultation with a qualified professional.