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Conflict

24 techniques · 12 approaches
CBT
Role Play
Role Play
A rehearsal technique for interpersonal situations. Therapist and client enact a difficult conversation, pause, adjust wording and try again…
CoLeC
Multi-Partial Positioning
Multi-Partial Positioning
When working with couples, families, or groups, the therapist takes the position of "on each one's side at the same time" — as opposed to ne…
DBT
DEAR MAN (Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate)
DEAR MAN (Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate)
A seven-step skill for effectively asserting your needs and getting the desired result. The focus is on the goal: when the result matters mo…
DBT
Effectively
Effectively
Building the capacity to choose actions that work (even when they are not "right" or do not match the sense of fairness), instead of clingin…
DBT
GIVE (Gentle, Interested, Validate, Easy manner)
GIVE (Gentle, Interested, Validate, Easy manner)
A four-step skill for keeping and strengthening the relationship. The focus is on connection: when the relationship matters more than the co…
DBT
STOP Skill (Stop, Take a step back, Observe, Proceed mindfully)
STOP Skill (Stop, Take a step back, Observe, Proceed mindfully)
A four-step protocol for stopping an impulsive action in the gap between urge and behavior. It breaks the automatic chain: trigger → emotion…
EFT for Couples
Negative Cycle Identification
Negative Cycle Identification
Identifying and naming the couple's repeating pattern of interaction: who pursues, who withdraws, how each reinforces the other's reaction. …
Gestalt
Monodrama
Monodrama
The client plays all the roles in a scenario, fantasy, or dream. If a dream contains a door, a wolf, and a corridor — the client becomes eac…
Gestalt
Rehearsal Technique
Rehearsal Technique
In session, the client plays through an upcoming event — a difficult conversation, negotiations, a conflict meeting. The therapist becomes t…
Gestalt
Unfinished Business
Unfinished Business
An unfinished business is an uncompleted exchange that keeps demanding energy in the present. Words that were not said, anger that was not e…
Gottman
Aftermath of a Fight Processing
Aftermath of a Fight Processing
A structured discussion of the conflict after both partners have calmed down, to understand triggers and extract lessons.
Gottman
Dreams Within Conflict
Dreams Within Conflict
Exploring the unspoken dreams and values that stand behind each partner's position in a gridlocked conflict.
Gottman
Four Horsemen Assessment
Four Horsemen Assessment
Identifying the four destructive patterns of communication (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) and training the couple to rec…
Gottman
Perpetual Problem Dialogue
Perpetual Problem Dialogue
A structured conversation about a chronic couple problem with the aim not of solving it but of maintaining an open dialogue with humor and a…
Gottman
Repair Attempts
Repair Attempts
Teaching the skill of stopping conflict escalation through repair actions, and the skill of accepting repair attempts from the partner.
Gottman
Softened Startup
Softened Startup
Teaching the formula for starting a difficult conversation without criticism: "I feel… when… and I need…" instead of "You always / never…".
IBCT
IBCT Incident Analysis
IBCT Incident Analysis
A structured analysis of a concrete conflict through the lens of the case formulation: how the theme, the trap, and the mutual trap showed u…
IBCT
Pattern Naming
Pattern Naming
The couple, together with the therapist, gives a name to their conflict pattern. The name turns the abstract conflict into a concrete "third…
IFS
U-Turn
U-Turn
The U-turn is a technique from IFIO (Intimacy From the Inside Out) and standard IFS. When the client reacts to an outside person or situatio…
IPT
Communication Analysis
Communication Analysis
Communication Analysis is an IPT intervention used to connect depressive symptoms with current interpersonal events and to turn that connect…
IPT
Role Disputes Resolution
Role Disputes Resolution
Role Disputes Resolution is an IPT intervention used to connect depressive symptoms with current interpersonal events and to turn that conne…
Jung
Transcendent Function / Holding the Tension of Opposites
Transcendent Function / Holding the Tension of Opposites
The transcendent function is the capacity of the psyche to create symbols that unite the opposing contents of the conscious and the unconsci…
STPP
Triangle of Conflict
Triangle of Conflict
Malan's map of internal conflict: wish or feeling activates anxiety, anxiety activates defense, and defense blocks the feeling while maintai…
Yalom
Paradoxes and Polarities (van Deurzen)
Paradoxes and Polarities (van Deurzen)
Life is arranged through unresolvable paradoxes: life–death, freedom–limits, loneliness–closeness, meaning–meaninglessness. Van Deurzen show…
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